A woman took to Reddit this week after arguing with her husband when she feared she was wrong because she yelled at him after he tossed his tampons because he did not feel “comfortable” with her.
Reddit’s “AITA” or “Am I the A ** hole” is an online community where users can come for an external opinion on something that bothers them.
In times of conflict, it is helpful to have the external perspective on who an outsider would perceive as the “hole” in the situation.
This time, a woman asked if she was mistaken for screaming when her husband threw away all her tampons.
The young couple has only been married for two months and a surprising conflict has already erupted between the two.
First, the 27-year-old gives some background to the story and explains that she has just started using tampons recently as she has used bandages in the past due to medical issues.
She also explains how she now prefers tampons, saying they “work 10 times better” for her, especially when she’s on the go.
Her husband, however, did not like the shift.
But according to her post, her husband hates that she now uses tampons. She writes: “He never really gave any other reason than just to say … he did not feel comfortable that I was using them.”
She writes that he asked her to go back to using bandages, but she clarified that she would make her own choices about how to manage her own body.
The woman claims that he is also like that with other things she does, but he tends to “figure out” what she wants in the end, so she thought this situation would be similar.
So she did not expect much opposition to such personal choices, but she was quickly surprised.
He started throwing away his tampons.
When he first threw away some of her tampons, she was upset but decided to start hiding her new tampons to avoid conflict.
Still managed to find the new pillows and threw a brand new box.
To his wife’s great dismay, she only found out when she got her period again and had no tampons to use because of her husband.
Because of the stress and frustration of the situation, she said she “just yelled at him” after he admitted to dumping them.
She describes their argument in her message: “He claimed I already knew how he felt about this, and yet I decided to keep it. I lost him and told him he had no right to do this, and told him that he should already get over himself.
She adds that after saying that, her husband looked as if he was about to tear up before going out.
The couple still can not get together.
Her husband took up the subject again and said in his own words, “As a couple we should consider each other’s discomfort”, adding that even though he told her how he felt about the tampons, “she pushed him away and cursed at him and abused ham verbally.
Again, he tries to insist that she stop using tampons, saying that if she has to use them, she should use them when she is not home.
She has made it clear that she will not give in to these demands, but she fears she has been too harsh on him.
She says, “I’m sick of the way this happened,” and finally she asks on Reddit, “Did I go too far here?” Is there a valid point or not? »
The verdict is: not the asshole.
Fortunately, the general “AITA” community did not appreciate this man telling his wife how she was allowed to manage her own menstrual periods.
Many were genuinely confused as to why it might bother him in the first place, and their theories only made them more certain that he was wrong.
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The main comment points out that even though it is impossible to “think of him as a policeman”, he crosses the border and feels angry at his reluctance to stop, let alone throw away his products.
Another commentator who supported the woman has a theory that is one of my favorites.
But one commenter in particular reached out to the wife beyond a simple ‘NTA’ vote.
This user points out that there are a lot of worrying signs in her husband’s behavior and their relationship dynamics that only come out of this short story.
The user asks this woman to successively consider all these traits and ensure that her relationship is a relationship that allows the woman to express herself and value her feelings as much as her husband.
Amanda Hartmann is a writer and editorial intern at YourTango, who writes about entertainment and current affairs.
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