Being in a couple but living apart: As early as 1978, Gisèle Halimi and Simone de Beauvoir argued that in order to put an end to patriarchy, it would be necessary to abolish cohabitation. Today, lovers who choose this formula are no longer rare … but still heavily criticized. And if it was still a solution?
There were the flowers (“You are amazing!”, “Interesting, it can really be beneficial”, “My grandparents did the same [emoji coeur]”…) So the pots. Very big:” Selfish “,” Divorce, it will go faster “,” When you love, you compromise “,” I see your horns grow visibly “.. Instagrammer Bettina Zourli and her The man Nicolas is hardly called degenerate, in the more than 1,200 comments generated by this video on Konbini.
There were the flowers (“You are amazing!”, “Interesting, it can really be beneficial”, “My grandparents did the same [emoji coeur]”…) So the pots. Very big:” Selfish “,” Divorce, it will go faster “,” When you love, you compromise “,” I see your horns grow visibly “.. Instagrammer Bettina Zourli and her The man Nicolas is hardly called degenerate, in the more than 1,200 comments that this video on Konbini triggered: Georges Brassens and Joha Heiman, Jacques Dutronc and Françoise Hardy, Laurence Bibot and Marka … Among celebrities, it is probably more glamorous to live separately , but for Bettina and Nicolas, nothing to do with any tours or exhibitions More with the cleaning, the sweeping, the polishing.Because Bettina, her casa, she always likes it spice up and Nicolas, yes … never the first to hurry oh, of course, they would “regain quality time together”, no longer let everyday troubles pollute their relationships and allow themselves to have a life beyond anything else … But if they, even though they are married, now each lives in an apartment, it is largely because of the domestic duties they do not have managed to distribute equally. The mental charge hit again. How to love, overwhelmed by the weight of inequalities? “To escape the usual pitfalls of love instead of questioning the principle of an exclusive relationship, […] we can also seek to change the concrete conditions under which it takes place “, writes Mona Chollet in Reinventing laws. She herself is a fan of everyone at home, she believes that separate housing” bypasses the couple and the family as schemes to exploit women’s workforce. […] Is this exploitation a random consequence of living together, or is it its raison d’etre? “It was hard not to think back on this breach: he had taken it easy. And had only screamed when he noticed that that time , where fates thread up, her laundry would no longer be ironed.On the Instagram account “You thought of …”, a lady said her husband’s first reaction was: “I’m going to have to get divorced. take a cleaning lady. “Special cases? Several studies on joint custody have shown that once fathers have separated, fathers often transfer responsibility for the children to another woman. Their mother, a new companion. Even a nanny, for those who can afford it. ” If the goal to be achieved is the abolition of the patriarchal family, it may be necessary to achieve it, to suppress cohabitation between couples for at least one generation “, launched in 1978 the organization Choosing the women’s cause, founded e by Gisèle Halimi and Simone de Beauvoir. Said today in a video on Konbini, guaranteed hateful comments. Two homes obviously cost a bridge. It does not help the environment. It sucks if there are (ordinary) children. But this “ideal” (according to Mona Chollet) deserves at least to ask this question: why basically move together? Only for love? By conformism? Of economic necessity? Or to take advantage of the services of a homemaker?