You do not trust him anymore
In a friendship, trust is crucial. And if you doubt that your friend thinks you’re good, staying in a relationship is useless.
An example might be a friend who tends to make plans for you at the last minute and then dumps you when you need them.
You are embarrassed about their behavior with others.
A friend who does not know how to behave in society, who is rude or mean to people who are dear to you, is hard to bear. Even in other social situations, like when you go out to a bar and the person makes you embarrassed by being disrespectful to the waiter or the person spends his time making fun of others.
She may be sweet to you, but her friendship is not worth the trouble she causes with others.
You give more than you receive
Your friend always seems to ask you, but does not offer you anything in return? This is truly a toxic friendship.
This friend spends his time monopolizing the conversation about what’s going on in her life, but when you want to talk about yourself, there’s no one left …
Of course, it is not advisable to part with a friend who can not be there for you all the time, especially if she herself is going through a hard process. It is important to know that a person may not always be emotionally available to us.
But if it happens too often, it is a sign that the relationship has become too negative for us.
You do not want to spend time with them.
If you’re happy every time your plans with them are canceled, it’s probably because this friendship wears you down.
This is also true on social networks if you avoid video calls with them: it means this person is not made for you.
They’re talking about you behind your back
Have you noticed that your friends talk behind your back and do not necessarily say very nice things?
It is a way in which toxic people express a certain superiority complex towards you in order to settle you down. Often associated with jealousy, this behavior should be avoided!
6. You spend your time coming up with excuses for them.
When a friend is known for his bad manners and bad behavior, it is embarrassingly constant to justify his actions to others.
For example, when you introduce your friend to a family member and the family member later points out to you that the friend ignored or interrupted her while he or she was speaking, this encourages you to stand up for him or her. attention, usually he is very sweet … “.
If it’s too common to make excuses, it’s best to walk away.
You feel in competition with them
Although competition is something very “human”, it must take place in a healthy environment. For example, if you decide to buy the same bag as your friend, it is not a big deal.
But you need to maintain a good feeling towards the other and not do things out of jealousy.
If the competition between you is too recurring, it is not normal and it can ruin your relationship.
They use “gaslighting” against you
Dana Castro, a psychologist, states in an article in the Journal of Healthy Women that gaslighting is “a phenomenon that refers to brainwashing. It is a form of harassment that aims to create doubt in the victim.”
People who are affected by gas lighting go so far as to question their reason.
This behavior can result in someone lying to you in order to escape responsibility for their actions by blaming you for their own mistakes.
But a true friend takes responsibility for their actions and apologizes if they hurt you.
you are not yourself
Unfortunately, hanging out with a toxic person can also make us toxic.
Training with this person brings out the worst in us: we can become super irritable, we talk behind the backs of others, and so on.
Or you are simply afraid to be yourself because you feared your boyfriend / girlfriend’s reaction. This will only result in the degraded image you have of yourself and cause you to lose confidence in yourself. So it’s time to dump her and move on.
Your friends not only have good intentions
Although no one is perfect, good people always have good intentions.
If someone accidentally hurts you when their intentions were good, it’s easier to forgive than when a toxic friend intentionally hurts you.
You are afraid to check your messages
Keeping in touch with loved ones has never been easier than it is today.
But from the moment you are afraid to open your phone because your friend calls you or has texted you, you are sure that this friendship is not healthy for you.
A true friend should not scare you out every time your phone rings. It is therefore the right time to block this person to regain your peace of mind.
You do not know why you are friends with them.
You have fond memories with this person, but time has passed and you took both opposite paths and are not necessarily on the same wavelength.
Just because you have a past with that person, does not mean you have to have a future together. You are not responsible for that person’s happiness, and unfortunately you can not change them no matter how hard you try. It is therefore important to ask yourself why you are still dating this person. Because longevity should not be the only reason. Especially if the friendship is detrimental to your mental health.
You feel manipulated
One of the signs of a toxic friendship is when you feel used to doing things you do not really want to do.
A toxic friend is capable of manipulating us out of self-interest. Often to get something out of ourselves. This is abusive behavior!
If you know it’s not normal, it’s no use agreeing to maintain your relationship.
They spend their time criticizing you
Does this person spend his time criticizing you and using your mistakes against you? It is normal to feel degraded and bad towards oneself as it is a form of manipulation.
If they spend their time making fun of your clothes, your way of being or that they judge your body, it is that they are seeking to humiliate you, and that in turn is a complex superiority on their part.A true friend may not always tell you what you want to hear, but they will always respect you.
You can not trust their advice.
Since life is full of pitfalls, it is important to be well surrounded and well advised. The moment you ask a friend for advice and instantly regret it because they lack empathy or will not even listen, it can mean the person is toxic.