One of your friends is stuck in a toxic relationship, but you do not know what to do to help them? Here are a few tips.
Recently, the editor of Trendy gave you 4 tips to comfort someone who is going through a difficult period. Today, she looks at toxic conditions. Here we are talking about psychological abuse, which unfortunately can sometimes be accompanied by physical violence. But how do you recognize a destructive idyll? Generally, it is when a person is with a partner that does them more harm than good. If you notice that your friend is hurting more than he / she is enjoying their romance, something is wrong.. If his / her behavior changes, he / she is dissatisfied or his / her self-esteem falls, action must be taken. But beware, it is better to avoid putting your feet in the dish. Here are some tips to help your friend find the path to happiness.
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This is the first thing to do: Be an attentive ear. Let your friend tell you about their problems and be there for them. Make her understand that you will always be there when needed, and especially if she wants to confide. And if that’s ever the case, let him / her have a good time. He / she should feel comfortable opening up to you. So avoid being too virulent or insisting that he / she break up with his / her partner, this will only offend him / her and he / she may even forget to tell you all the truth for fear of your negative remarks. You are not there to debate or convince him / her and even less to impose your opinion. You need to subtly make her question her relationship. Leaving a toxic relationship is a long process and you need to be patient.. Accompany him / her and assure him / her he / she will be grateful to you.
Stay as neutral as possible
Even if you are angry and outraged at the way your friend is being treated in their relationship, try to take a step back. Do not put pressure on him / her to make a decision quickly and do not clash with his / her partner. It really will not have the desired effect. On the contrary, he / she risks becoming defensive. Even worse, he / she may even come to defend his / her tormenting spirit. The phase of denial is difficult to deal with, but tell yourself that it is his well-being that takes precedence in this situation. However, to try to get him / her to respond, you can entrust him / her your concerns and doubts with as much honesty as kindness.. It is important to tell him that you are concerned about what is happening to him and that he / she has your unfailing support to get out of this grip.
Share your personal experience
You are probably reluctant to bring up this topic with your friend, but know that it is necessary to reach out to him / her to prevent him / her from sinking into loneliness. To make him want to open up about what he / she is going through, you can talk to him / her about your own complicated relationships. Or those around you. Do not be afraid to show yourself vulnerable by, for example, admitting to him that you have sometimes apologized for your ex’s bad behavior or simply ignored the red flags. Do not try to make too many comparisons so that he / she does not feel manipulated. It may seem obvious, but explain to him that a relationship should give you love, joy, peace and not pain.. He / she will realize that he / she is not the only one going through this. And with a little luck, your story may open his eyes to his situation.
Do not judge him / her
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The last thing your friend needs is to be criticized. Believe us, he / she already feels ashamed of having fallen into the trap and having trouble turning the page. He / she is definitely the first (era) who wants to get out of this heavy atmosphere. Instead of throwing a condescending tone in his face, just keep an open mind.. Whatever you say, be gentle. But do not be afraid to ask him about his relationship. Knowing how he / she feels and how this relationship affects him / her on a daily basis. The goal ? That he / she hears his / her answer aloud so that he / she becomes aware of his / her discomfort in order to finally find the courage to go. He / she must come to this conclusion himself, of course you can not force him / her to do so. You can simply support him / her during this transition, which will not be easy.
Increases his / her self-confidence
If your friend is often humiliated or humiliated daily in their relationship, their self-esteem has probably suffered a major setback. He / she must definitely think that he / she does not deserve better than this unhealthy bond. Do not hesitate to remind him of his many qualities and everything you like about him / her. The goal is to raise his / her self-esteem to the maximum so that he / she understands that he / she is stronger than he / she imagines.. Make it clear that he / she has the right to be happy. (-see). To have all that happiness in the world and be treated as it should be. Just give him / her the strength he / she needs to leave this relationship that is so detrimental to his / her mental health. With your support, he / she could finally get a click to get out of it.